As a single man, here the two things I want most:
- A close relationship with God made possible by His forgiveness.
- A close relationship with a woman of honor who has #1 above.
The second desire is a far cry from the first. Nevertheless, it is the focus of my thoughts below.
Unfortunately, I live in a culture holds honor in low regard, especially for women. Yet, my hope springs eternal because women still exist who hold their honor and faith above and beyond culture. More power to such women.
Dishonoring women (or women dishonoring themselves) defines much of modern American culture today. It generates big bucks. Rap music that dishonors women is a fast track to fame and fortune. Porn dishonors women and it is more rampant in today’s America than ever before. Using women to sell things is not new, but degrading them in the process has reached lower depths than ever.
Notice the way Obamacare was advertised. At our expense, a group called ProgressNow marketed the “Affordable Health Act” to Millennials suggesting that it would enable them to sleep around with no consequences. Consider the text of one ‘brosurance’ ad:
OMG, he’s so hot! Let’s hope he’s as easy to get as this birth control. My health insurance covers to pill, which means all I have to worry about is getting him between the covers. I got insurance. Now you can too, thanks to Obamacare.
Update: Rampant sexual chaos dishonors women.
Seeing Miley Cyrus dishonor herself on stage is considered as wildly exciting entertainment today. Her image on a major magazine cover recently was used dishonorably (see last week’s post: Cosmopolitan Concerns). Culture icon Lady Gaga is not known for honor and her influence on young celebrities (and others) is also huge. She dishonors her own fans by calling them “little monsters.” This is postured as a term of alleged affection and her fans love it, but that does not make it honorable. Even Super Bowl halftime shows, featuring “wardrobe malfunctions,” are not safe for honorable young girls any longer. We honor the wrong women in America all too often.
Why is this happening? One possible motive is that if powerful men can get more women to see themselves as dishonorable, it becomes easier to manipulate them to behave dishonorably. Getting dishonor to stick in a woman’s minds places her in the clutches of dishonorable men for dishonorable purposes. Using women is a lot easier than loving them.
Dishonoring motherhood is another way for a culture to dishonor women. Nothing dishonors motherhood more than widespread legal abortion. Actually, it dishonors life itself and motherhood is a huge collateral casualty. America has glorified legal abortion to the extent that our government helps pay for them. Even the slightest opposition to it brings the vicious accusation from the most powerful political party in the nation that you are waging a “war against women.” That’s perversion but it’s popular enough to get many politicians on the left elected. We are also redefining marriage to minimize the merits of motherhood. In some 16 states today, marriage has been redefined so that motherhood and fatherhood (functioning as a family unit) has been replaced with “whateverhood,” as if we don’t care that children grow up with a mother and father in the home.
As for men, a word from C.S. Lewis will suffice:
In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honour and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.(The Abolition of Man)
Women of honor, don’t lower your price tag. Our culture often switches price tags so that things that are truly valuable (like modesty, purity, fidelity, patience and unselfish love) are devalued while things that destroy (porn, M-TV, adultery, homosexuality and more) are glorified and rewarded richly. That’s America today! That’s why too many men undervalue women and why too many women surrender their honor so easily. It’s time for a moral rebellion — time for women of honor to hold out for men who honor them and protect their honor. Don’t be available to dishonorable men at a discount.
Finally, pain, heartbache, disappointment and trials are no reason to abandon your honor. When all is said and done, if you come away from adversity with your honor standing tall, you win! You are better for it. And for those who have slipped in the past, look first to the highest priority on my list above: a close relationship with the God who made you and can re-make you in His image as you seek His forgiveness.